Somewhere along the way, you may have been taught—directly or quietly—that setting boundaries is selfish. That saying no makes you difficult. That protecting your peace is something to feel guilty about. 

Let me share the truth with you today: Boundaries are not barriers to love—they are bridges to safety. 

After abuse, boundaries can feel unfamiliar—or even frightening. You might wonder: • Is it okay to ask for space? • Am I being too much? • What if they get upset with me? • What if I’m just overreacting? 

These are valid fears, especially when you’ve spent years accommodating others at your own expense. After abuse, even the idea of choosing yourself can feel like a risk. But it is also an act of reclaiming your worth. 

Learning to set boundaries isn’t about building walls—it’s about building wholeness. 

Today’s Brave Practice: 

1. Reflect – What is one boundary you need to feel safe today? (Emotional, physical, spiritual, or relational.) 

2. Write it down as a personal declaration of self-respect. 

Example: “I do not have to explain myself when I say no.” “I will not tolerate being spoken to with disrespect.” 

3. Speak it aloud if you feel ready—let your voice hear your truth. 

Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out—they’re about keeping you whole. They’re how you say, with quiet strength: “I matter too.” 

Every time you set a healthy boundary, you honour the healing happening within you. 

Tomorrow, we’ll explore how to rebuild trust with yourself—one promise at a time.